GATHER is an ongoing online space for relational exploration; a place to look at the patterns, experiences and ways of relating that shape our relationships with ourselves and others.
We work with Family Constellations, somatic practices, conversation and embodied exploration.
But this work isn’t something we only think about for a few hours and then leave behind.
What we explore needs space to unfold.
And it needs somewhere to meet us again in everyday life.
That’s why GATHER has two monthly gatherings, held about two weeks apart.
NOTICE → EXPERIENCE → PRACTICE
The Relational Immersion (3 Hours)
Go deeper.
The Immersion is where we slow down and create space for deeper exploration. Through Family Constellations, somatic work, teaching and conversation, we can spend time with what is underneath the patterns we keep meeting.
The Relational Lab (1.5 Hours)
Stay with what is happening.
The Lab is where we return to what has surfaced and look at how it is showing up in our relationships, our responses and our everyday lives. It’s a space to stay curious, bring what is real, and explore what happens when we meet familiar patterns differently.
Join GATHER at any time – We meet online, twice a month
GATHER may be for you if you…
understand your patterns but still find yourself repeating them
want to move beyond insight into embodied change
notice the same dynamics appearing across relationships
want to explore yourself in relationship rather than in isolation
What If You Could Relate Differently?
Relationships are at the center of our lives.
And yet, most of us were never actually taught how to be in relationship
Relationships shape so much of our lives in how connected we feel, how we handle conflict, how we ask for what we need, and how safe we feel being ourselves.
We learned how to communicate.
We learned how to get things done.
We learned how to take care of responsibilities.
But who taught us how to stay connected when things get difficult?
How to set a boundary without guilt?
How to repair after we’ve caused hurt?
How to stop abandoning ourselves to keep the peace?
GATHER is a space to learn and practice these relational skills in community with others doing the same work.
Two spaces. One practice.
GATHER moves between depth and integration.
The Relational Immersion gives you space to slow down, go deeper and work directly with what is underneath a pattern.
The Relational Lab brings that work back into relationship — giving you space to notice, experiment and practice as things arise in everyday life.
Together, they create the rhythm of GATHER.
The space between matters too.
Gather isn’t designed to be something you simply consume and move on from.
The Immersion and Lab are intentionally spaced apart.
You have time to take what you’re exploring into your actual life.
Notice what happens.
Try something different.
See what comes up.
Then return to the space with what you’ve discovered.
The practice continues outside the room.
Relating goes beyond romantic relationships
When we hear “relationship healing,” we often think about romantic relationships.
But our relational world is so much bigger.
We are in relationship with our partners, friends, family members, coworkers, communities and ourselves.
The patterns we develop in one relationship can often follow us into another.
Maybe you struggle to say no to your partner—and find yourself doing the same thing with friends or colleagues.
Maybe conflict makes you shut down at home—and difficult conversations at work feel just as uncomfortable.
Maybe you find yourself repeating the same relationship dynamics even though you consciously want something different.
Relational healing is about becoming more aware of how you relate and developing the capacity to choose something different.
GATHER isn’t a traditional course where you listen to someone talk about relationships and take notes
We practice.
Each month, we’ll explore a different relational theme through experiential exercises, somatic awareness, reflection, conversation and real-life application.
You might learn about boundaries but then actually practice setting one.
You might explore apology and repair but then examine what happens inside you when you’re the person who needs to say, “I hurt you.”
You might learn about emotional regulation but then notice what happens in your body when someone disagrees with you.
Because there is a difference between knowing something intellectually and being able to access it when you’re activated.
Our Journey…
Relational Immersion: Relationship Patterns & Ancestral Entanglements (3 Hours Monthly)
Go deeper into the patterns that shape how you relate.
The Relational Immersion is our deeper monthly gathering for exploring the relationship patterns that keep showing up and what may be underneath them.
Each Immersion brings together guided teaching, personal reflection and experiential Family Constellations work.
We might begin with a theme or pattern, then create space to reflect through journaling and conversation. We may explore how our experiences with our mother, father and family system can shape the way we experience relationships today — for example, how early experiences of connection, absence or inconsistency may influence patterns around abandonment, belonging, trust or closeness.
From there, we move into a guided Family Constellation, allowing the pattern to be explored experientially rather than only talked about.
You might bring a relationship you’re navigating, a recurring pattern, or simply something you’re curious to understand more deeply.
We will explore:
- Relationship patterns that keep repeating
- Mother, father and family dynamics
- Attachment and early relational experiences
- Belonging, abandonment and connection
- Family and ancestral patterns
- Boundaries, closeness and disconnection
You don’t need to have all the answers. Come with curiosity.
Relational Lab: This 1.5 hour workshop has been structured to build and strengthen your core relational skills and provide an opportunity to practice and receive feedback in a safe container.
The Relational Lab is our monthly practice space for learning and practising the skills that help us navigate relationships differently.
Each Lab focuses on a practical relational topic such as how to apologize, set a boundary, navigate conflict, communicate a need or repair after a rupture.
We’ll explore the topic together, look at what tends to get in the way, and then practice the skill in real time.
You’ll have opportunities to work in breakout rooms, try out different ways of responding, notice what happens in your body and communication, and receive feedback before bringing the learning back to the group.
We might explore:
Boundaries
What happens when you say what you actually need?
Conflict
What happens when connection feels uncertain or disagreement arises?
Repair
Can you stay present after rupture without collapsing into shame or defensiveness?
People-pleasing
What happens when you stop taking responsibility for everyone else’s experience?
Attachment
What do you do when you want closeness, reassurance or distance?
Communication
What becomes possible when you slow down enough to notice how you’re relating in real time?
The Lab isn’t about getting the “right” answer.
It’s about creating enough space to notice, experiment and practice.
GATHER is an ongoing space for practicing the skills that shape how we relate to ourselves, our relationships and the world around us.
Choose your GATHER Experience
Explore one theme at a time
Join GATHER for the current month’s relational healing theme and experience live experiential practices, reflection, discussion and real-life relational experiments. This includes both the Relational Immersion and the Relational Lab
Three months. Multiple themes.
Three months gives you the opportunity to explore multiple relational themes, practice new skills and notice what begins to shift—not just during our sessions, but in your everyday relationships. This includes everything in the monthly experience
*Save $27 compared with paying monthly.
WHY COMMIT TO THREE MONTHS?
Because relational change isn’t usually a one-session experience.
You learn something.
You practice it.
You notice what comes up.
You try again.
Three months gives you space to explore, experiment and integrate—while building relational skills you can carry into your friendships, family, work, intimate relationships and relationship with yourself.
Come for one month. Stay for the practice.
If you’re already a Tier 2 member of the Somatic Embodiment Academy, you can participate in Gather at no additional cost as part of your membership benefits.
I’m Stef 🙂
I created GATHER from years of exploring what it means to heal in relationship.
My work brings together Family Constellations, somatic practice, attachment, embodiment and relational exploration.
Over time, I’ve become less interested in simply understanding why we do what we do and more interested in what becomes possible when we have the opportunity to experience something different.
Gather brings these threads together into one ongoing space.
A space to be curious.
A space to practice.
A space to meet yourself and others differently.
